Hi - I am up late worrying about the value of marriage. My brother announced today to the family that he is getting a divorce. I am sad. That makes me the only one, out of 3 kids, to still be married. I know that marriage is a challenge. I know that it takes a lot of work. I also know that people change and feelings change and sometimes everything changes. Sometimes divorce is the only answer left...

But I feel so blessed to have married my best friend. I know we get on each other's nerves at times, those idiosyncresies..(no idea how to spell that one!). But we still love each other. Well, maybe the better word is actually like each other. We like being together even in a crowded, noisy, child-in-every-corner home (with 5 kids + a dayhome it can get crazy!). Somehow we hang on.

Maybe that is the secret. Hanging on to eachother. Hanging on to the goodness we know is in the other. Hanging on to the reason we fell in love in the first place... we liked being together!

I need to remember that as I juggle my life's bouncy balls of "things to do/should have already done", that I need to keep doing the basics for my marriage. A real kiss when we come home from work, a sincere thanks/compliment/smile across a loud dinner table, a hug to reconnect as a couple and not just as roomates, time together - NO KIDS ALLOWED.

The basics keep the foundation from cracking from life's pressures. Usually. I'll keep using them for eternity... which is how long I plan to be married for. Don't tell Chris though.... he might have second thoughts!! :} Some days, eternity seems a very long time! :) bye for now~